Why Don’t Girls Like Giving Head?
- So, some girls do like giving head. Maybe even most do, I don’t know, I’ve never taken a survey. However, it is clear that some subset of the female population absolutely hates going down on guys (lesbians are usually okay with going down on girls). If you are male, and your girlfriend is one of those girls who don’t like going down on guys this can be somewhat distressing. So, what’s going on in her mind?
Assuming she has no religious objections to sex in general, she is most likely afraid of being bad. This makes sense – most straight guys would probably prefer to be good at going down on girls. But, there are two things that make girls more hesitant than guys.
The first thing is that girls usually take failure harder than guys. Consequently, a girl will tend to be much more embarrassed if something goes wrong whereas a guy will usually be more comfortable just laughing things off.
The other thing is that it is more expected that a girl will be good at giving head. Men are supposed to be horny geysers of semen and so it is particularly embarrassing for a girl if she can’t get a guy off. Some women, on the other hand, can’t even orgasm. And, even if they can, bringing a woman to orgasm is generally not considered a trivial task so there’s much less pressure on a guy eating out a girl.
But the thing is, it’s actually not that easy to give a blow job. For a first timer, a penis is just some anonymous meat rod like any other sausage or hot dog. To further complicate the matter, different men like different things so even experienced people may not be able to master it with everyone. So some girls will try to give a blow job, fail, and then refuse to do it ever again. Often they’ll play it off, pretending that they think giving blow jobs are slutty or something, but that’s just a cover. Chances are if you’re a guy with a girlfriend who is particularly opposed to giving blow jobs she gave a bad once once and is to ashamed to ever try again.
So what can you do about it? First thing is, you’ve got to get talking about it. Say something like “I think it would be so hot if you went down on me,” to get the ball rolling. Then you have to be kind of crafty because you have to address her deeper concerns without embarrassing her.
Basically what you want to communicate is that you know it’s not easy, you’d really appreciate it, and you don’t care if she doesn’t finish (I know you probably will care, but think of it as an investment in future blow jobs). Then, give lots of positive reinforcement when she gives you one. If she does stuff wrong, try telling her what you’d like her to do instead of what you don’t want her to do. If she doesn’t finish, take care of yourself, then insist that you had a really great time and you’d love to do it again. Eventually, she’ll figure it out.
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