Comments on: What is it like to be a Beautiful Woman? http://emmajolin.wordpress.com/2008/11/14/what-is-it-like-to-be-a-beautiful-woman/ Understanding the Opposite Gender Mon, 09 Nov 2009 04:07:04 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Marissa http://emmajolin.wordpress.com/2008/11/14/what-is-it-like-to-be-a-beautiful-woman/#comment-104 Marissa Fri, 30 Jan 2009 16:00:30 +0000 http://emmajolin.wordpress.com/?p=61#comment-104 You've missed one important aspect of being a beautiful woman. Beautiful women are often abused as little girls. They are pretty and perverts flock to them. They are the girls that get seduced by the young athletic coach in high school. The girls who Daddy's best friend wants to fondle. Men want them for their beauty, but become so blinded by it that they neglect everything else about them. A beautiful woman makes a man suspicious, jealous and insecure. Being beautiful DOES have it's advantages. There were times that I knew that I got a job because I was better looking that the other girl sitting in the waiting area. I've never paid a speeding ticket. Never. The one ticket I ever got for another moving violation was dismissed by the judge I stood before. He found me attractive. It was obvious. But the downside is that I was abused (emotionally, sexually and physically) by MANY men as a child and young adult. I was beautiful, but that lead to pain. I never felt secure when I liked a guy. I never felt he truly liked me for who I was inside. I came to feel like all men wanted me for were my looks. It lead to bulimia and other psychological issues. I remember one therapist saying to me....but your so beautiful.....Geez!! So now I just turned 40. Im still attractive for my age. But I've come to love myself for who I am. I LOVE MYSELF. It took a long time to get to this place, but what I have found is that more people appreciate me for my talents and abilities now. I get respect. Maybe that just comes from age......but it sure feels good now to be truly BEAUTIFUL! You’ve missed one important aspect of being a beautiful woman. Beautiful women are often abused as little girls. They are pretty and perverts flock to them. They are the girls that get seduced by the young athletic coach in high school. The girls who Daddy’s best friend wants to fondle. Men want them for their beauty, but become so blinded by it that they neglect everything else about them. A beautiful woman makes a man suspicious, jealous and insecure. Being beautiful DOES have it’s advantages. There were times that I knew that I got a job because I was better looking that the other girl sitting in the waiting area. I’ve never paid a speeding ticket. Never. The one ticket I ever got for another moving violation was dismissed by the judge I stood before. He found me attractive. It was obvious.

But the downside is that I was abused (emotionally, sexually and physically) by MANY men as a child and young adult. I was beautiful, but that lead to pain. I never felt secure when I liked a guy. I never felt he truly liked me for who I was inside. I came to feel like all men wanted me for were my looks. It lead to bulimia and other psychological issues. I remember one therapist saying to me….but your so beautiful…..Geez!!

So now I just turned 40. Im still attractive for my age. But I’ve come to love myself for who I am. I LOVE MYSELF. It took a long time to get to this place, but what I have found is that more people appreciate me for my talents and abilities now. I get respect.

Maybe that just comes from age……but it sure feels good now to be truly BEAUTIFUL!

]]> By: Bry http://emmajolin.wordpress.com/2008/11/14/what-is-it-like-to-be-a-beautiful-woman/#comment-96 Bry Sat, 17 Jan 2009 11:23:10 +0000 http://emmajolin.wordpress.com/?p=61#comment-96 "From what I’ve seen, someone feels loved when another person appreciates all the things that they value about themselves." Exactly my feelings on the matter as well, and it functions well as the foundation for your analysis of the difficulties facing beautiful women. You assume in your discussion that beautiful women do not particularly value their own beauty--in part because beauty is a function of age (among many other things)--yet there must surely be some women out there who do view their beauty as defining of who they are, and something that makes them special, unique, all that jazz...or no? Would such a woman generally be happier than other beautiful women who define themselves by their intelligence, acting ability, and so on? Would such women be in worse shape because they feel compelled to maintain their beauty and will go to great lengths to do so (I'm thinking in particular of women who partake in cosmetic surgery, not just as "enhancement" but as a means to preserve their looks in the face of aging)? Finally, cheating because one is beautiful is a generally poor justification IMO without putting a relationship in context. If a man appreciated the things about his partner that she wanted to be appreciated for, and she cheated on him for other reasons--lack of sexual satisfaction, wanting to get it on with a hot guy, whatever--then her beauty is a relevant factor only in so far as she might be cashing in on it for personal gratification. Or will a man always be compelled to love a beautiful woman because of her beauty? Er, anyway, don't mind me. I just happened to be surfing the net and got caught up in reading your thoughtful analyses on various relationship topics. :) “From what I’ve seen, someone feels loved when another person appreciates all the things that they value about themselves.”

Exactly my feelings on the matter as well, and it functions well as the foundation for your analysis of the difficulties facing beautiful women.

You assume in your discussion that beautiful women do not particularly value their own beauty–in part because beauty is a function of age (among many other things)–yet there must surely be some women out there who do view their beauty as defining of who they are, and something that makes them special, unique, all that jazz…or no? Would such a woman generally be happier than other beautiful women who define themselves by their intelligence, acting ability, and so on? Would such women be in worse shape because they feel compelled to maintain their beauty and will go to great lengths to do so (I’m thinking in particular of women who partake in cosmetic surgery, not just as “enhancement” but as a means to preserve their looks in the face of aging)?

Finally, cheating because one is beautiful is a generally poor justification IMO without putting a relationship in context. If a man appreciated the things about his partner that she wanted to be appreciated for, and she cheated on him for other reasons–lack of sexual satisfaction, wanting to get it on with a hot guy, whatever–then her beauty is a relevant factor only in so far as she might be cashing in on it for personal gratification. Or will a man always be compelled to love a beautiful woman because of her beauty?

Er, anyway, don’t mind me. I just happened to be surfing the net and got caught up in reading your thoughtful analyses on various relationship topics. :)

]]> By: Mike http://emmajolin.wordpress.com/2008/11/14/what-is-it-like-to-be-a-beautiful-woman/#comment-74 Mike Wed, 10 Dec 2008 21:57:17 +0000 http://emmajolin.wordpress.com/?p=61#comment-74 This is just something ugly people say to make themselves feel better. jk Reel Big Fish Lyrics "There's a little girl On my mind (little girl) All the time (little girl) There's always one (little girl) Look what she's done She makes me look at her thighs You know I don't have to lie But why can't I tell her You know she's so beautiful But why do all girls think they're fat?" And how bout pretty or not, don't fuckin cheat? If you're at the point in a relationship where you think you might cheat on someone, fuckin end it. Beauty is not a factor. Ulgy-ass rednecks of both sexes kill each other all the time over cheating trailer trash. What's it like to be beautiful? Well if you are the rare breed of female who is the tripple threat of smart, confident, AND gorgeous I'd be life would be pretty awesome. You could get what you wanted for less work than others, OR when that fails you've got your brains, you've got plenty of ppl who want to be your friends while at the same time the intelligence to remain vigilant and weed out the jerks (I can see how that can become tiresome but boo-hoo the benefits outweigh the work)... I don't think loneliness would be the most common issue. On a side note a double threat of any of the above characteristics is going to take you pretty far even when lacking in the 3rd area. This is just something ugly people say to make themselves feel better.

jk

Reel Big Fish Lyrics

“There’s a little girl
On my mind (little girl)
All the time (little girl)
There’s always one (little girl)
Look what she’s done

She makes me look at her thighs
You know I don’t have to lie
But why can’t I tell her
You know she’s so beautiful
But why do all girls think they’re fat?”

And how bout pretty or not, don’t fuckin cheat? If you’re at the point in a relationship where you think you might cheat on someone, fuckin end it. Beauty is not a factor. Ulgy-ass rednecks of both sexes kill each other all the time over cheating trailer trash.

What’s it like to be beautiful? Well if you are the rare breed of female who is the tripple threat of smart, confident, AND gorgeous I’d be life would be pretty awesome. You could get what you wanted for less work than others, OR when that fails you’ve got your brains, you’ve got plenty of ppl who want to be your friends while at the same time the intelligence to remain vigilant and weed out the jerks (I can see how that can become tiresome but boo-hoo the benefits outweigh the work)… I don’t think loneliness would be the most common issue.

On a side note a double threat of any of the above characteristics is going to take you pretty far even when lacking in the 3rd area.

]]> By: Radha Smith, MSW http://emmajolin.wordpress.com/2008/11/14/what-is-it-like-to-be-a-beautiful-woman/#comment-69 Radha Smith, MSW Tue, 02 Dec 2008 18:24:43 +0000 http://emmajolin.wordpress.com/?p=61#comment-69 How absolutely true-to-life! Just sorry it took me so long to find it! How absolutely true-to-life! Just sorry it took me so long to find it!

]]> By: gabrieloneverything http://emmajolin.wordpress.com/2008/11/14/what-is-it-like-to-be-a-beautiful-woman/#comment-67 gabrieloneverything Tue, 18 Nov 2008 21:10:45 +0000 http://emmajolin.wordpress.com/?p=61#comment-67 The last line of your post is funny as crap. I almost lawled myself. The last line of your post is funny as crap. I almost lawled myself.

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