How to Ask For a Kiss
This was a quick thought I had while I was procrastinating.
Previously, I always thought asking for a kiss was so unsuave. Whenever someone asked if they could kiss me I always thought “ugh, not anymore.” BUT I’ve changed my mind.
The other day someone asked to kiss me, and I was totally not repulsed by it. So what was the difference? The first few times people asked, they always said “May I kiss you?” or worse, sometimes they wouldn’t even ask they’d just say “I really want to kiss you.” How the hell do you respond to “I really want to kiss you”? (I just froze up, and straight up said “Oh my god, I feel so awkward right now” which is total failure on my behalf.) Those questions made me feel creepy, I’m not completely sure why, but possibly because they carried the implication that my allowing the other person to kiss me was doing them a favor.
The better question is “Do you want to kiss me?” because not only does it carry the implication that I’m kissing whoever because I want to, but the question is also just easier to answer. I don’t have to worry about “well, why shouldn’t s/he kiss me” or “how am I supposed to respond to his/her wanting to kiss me” – I just think am I in the mood for some kissing right now?
Not that I think you always have to ask explicitly, since you can often tell if someone wants to be kissed (here are some hints, do they like it when you touch them? do they casually touch you? have your faces been under a foot apart for more than like 30 seconds?) but if someone’s hard to read, or you just feel more comfortable asking, ask them what THEY want instead of requesting what you want.
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Nice tip! But I still think you’re a weirdo :-p
Now write an article about your ideal way for someone to ask for a kiss NOT on the lips. I’m sure “Do you want to ___ my ___” would make you think “am I in the mood for ____ his ____ right now?” and the answer would be “NO!”
Usually I say something indirect like “I think you’re cute” or “oh god.” It implies what I want to imply, I get to see how they react, etc. If they say “I think you’re cute, too” or whatever then I’m good to go.
But it’s usually just fucking OBVIOUS.